We had a blast tonight discussing our opinions about cheating. Check it out and let us know what you think!!! Cheers!!!
Thursday, April 25, 2013
Check out our first LISTENER'S CHOICE SHOW on CHEATING
Listen to my new episode CHEATING- LISTENER'S CHOICE at http://tobtr.com/s/4720847. #BlogTalkRadio
We had a blast tonight discussing our opinions about cheating. Check it out and let us know what you think!!! Cheers!!!
We had a blast tonight discussing our opinions about cheating. Check it out and let us know what you think!!! Cheers!!!
Listener's Choice- CHEATING
We have dedicated our very first ever Listener's Choice topic to The Anonymous One, whose feedback prompted us to talk about CHEATING. This week we looked at this crucial question when thinking about cheating. WHAT EXACTLY IS CONSIDERED CHEATING AND WHAT PROMPTS SOMEONE TO CHEAT? The Chatting Drunk Hosts are looking forward to discussing their different takes on this subject. We definitely do not agree on this one so tune in! Cheers!
Check us out at Blogtalkradio.com on Thursday at 9:00 pm! You can chat live with your hosts online through Blogtalk Radio, Facebook, and Twitter. We will also be taking LIVE CALLERS! So please tune in for Chatting Drunk!
Michele
First I want to start this weeks post by saying I am nowhere near comfortable discussing this topic. I have cheated, been cheated on, been the other woman and have witnessed others close to me go through the same. I believe in karma and believe i have already paid for my sins, I have learned from these experiences and would never do them again.
I think people turn to cheating because they are cowards. If they were not, they would stay true to themselves and end the current relationship before starting something new. I think honesty is key in any relationship and if you are not happy and have thought of straying, tell your partner if you want to work at it, do so, and if not part ways. Cheating is not going to help the situation it only makes things worse. It hurts others not only the person that has been cheated on.
I think there are different levels of cheating and no one is better, or easily forgiven than the other. Cheating is still cheating and is hard to move on from or forgive. First there is emotionally cheating, where one partner turns to another for emotional support. I believe most women who cheat start here! Then there is physically cheating, where a partner engages in physical acts with someone other than their significant other. Now some people would classify a kiss as cheating, others do not, it depends on how someone views that I guess.
Leilani
I am excited about our first Listener's Choice Show! This topic is, in my opinion, controversial. That's why we limited it down to these two questions. So I will answer them respectively. Let me preface this topic by saying that I haven't ever cheated, and I haven't ever been the one cheated on. At least that I know of. LOL!
So what do you consider cheating? In my opinion there are two forms of cheating. The emotional aspect and the physical aspect. Physical cheating in my opinion is when someone engages in sex, perhaps even kissing, but I don't know if I think that hugging another person would be considered cheating. I think that there are too many people that are so over possessive of their partners that they think that when their partner gives someone a high five, a hug, or a kiss on the cheek, that person has every intention of cheating. After speaking with a great friend of mine, she pointed out that those instances show that people have "EVERY INTENTION OF CHEATING!" (Had to capitalize for emphasis on the way she told me. Hahahaha) Intentions of cheating, do not mean that the person will actually cheat. I think of it this way, the intentions of buying some awesome new shoes, doesn't mean that you're going to go out of your way and buy those awesome shoes. There are a lot of things to consider, price, location, the fit. All of these things could run through your mind, but that actual purchase has not been made yet. Intentions mean nothing until they turn into actions.
On that note let me say that emotional cheating is probably a little more intense. Unless you are a mind reader, there is probably no or little signs to prove that your partner is cheating. However, once that emotional attachment is gone, then what is the point of staying in a relationship? Someone that cheats emotionally has now invested time, thought, and love, into another person that is not their significant other. Feelings can't be controlled, and if someone isn't "feeling" the other person, then they become emotionally detached. Thus the cheating.
Now why do people cheat? I feel for women that it's more of an emotional detachment. This could also be a stereotype. Some women are like men and need to be sexually satisfied. But then again that's a stereotype, because men also require emotional attachments in a healthy relationship. So, in my opinion, there is basically an emotional or physical need not being satisfied.
Whew! That was a lot from my perspective. Lol!
Luis
What is considered cheating? Whenever we betray a trust of our partner, whether it be physical, emotional, or spiritual bonding with a third party without the partners consent.
Why do people cheat? People have different scenarios in which society judges upon. At what point should we judge it? At what point should we not? I believe it's important to put yourself in peoples shoes before you frown upon their actions.
The rest I'll discuss on the show.
Check us out at Blogtalkradio.com on Thursday at 9:00 pm! You can chat live with your hosts online through Blogtalk Radio, Facebook, and Twitter. We will also be taking LIVE CALLERS! So please tune in for Chatting Drunk!
Michele
First I want to start this weeks post by saying I am nowhere near comfortable discussing this topic. I have cheated, been cheated on, been the other woman and have witnessed others close to me go through the same. I believe in karma and believe i have already paid for my sins, I have learned from these experiences and would never do them again.
I think people turn to cheating because they are cowards. If they were not, they would stay true to themselves and end the current relationship before starting something new. I think honesty is key in any relationship and if you are not happy and have thought of straying, tell your partner if you want to work at it, do so, and if not part ways. Cheating is not going to help the situation it only makes things worse. It hurts others not only the person that has been cheated on.
I think there are different levels of cheating and no one is better, or easily forgiven than the other. Cheating is still cheating and is hard to move on from or forgive. First there is emotionally cheating, where one partner turns to another for emotional support. I believe most women who cheat start here! Then there is physically cheating, where a partner engages in physical acts with someone other than their significant other. Now some people would classify a kiss as cheating, others do not, it depends on how someone views that I guess.
Leilani
I am excited about our first Listener's Choice Show! This topic is, in my opinion, controversial. That's why we limited it down to these two questions. So I will answer them respectively. Let me preface this topic by saying that I haven't ever cheated, and I haven't ever been the one cheated on. At least that I know of. LOL!
So what do you consider cheating? In my opinion there are two forms of cheating. The emotional aspect and the physical aspect. Physical cheating in my opinion is when someone engages in sex, perhaps even kissing, but I don't know if I think that hugging another person would be considered cheating. I think that there are too many people that are so over possessive of their partners that they think that when their partner gives someone a high five, a hug, or a kiss on the cheek, that person has every intention of cheating. After speaking with a great friend of mine, she pointed out that those instances show that people have "EVERY INTENTION OF CHEATING!" (Had to capitalize for emphasis on the way she told me. Hahahaha) Intentions of cheating, do not mean that the person will actually cheat. I think of it this way, the intentions of buying some awesome new shoes, doesn't mean that you're going to go out of your way and buy those awesome shoes. There are a lot of things to consider, price, location, the fit. All of these things could run through your mind, but that actual purchase has not been made yet. Intentions mean nothing until they turn into actions.
On that note let me say that emotional cheating is probably a little more intense. Unless you are a mind reader, there is probably no or little signs to prove that your partner is cheating. However, once that emotional attachment is gone, then what is the point of staying in a relationship? Someone that cheats emotionally has now invested time, thought, and love, into another person that is not their significant other. Feelings can't be controlled, and if someone isn't "feeling" the other person, then they become emotionally detached. Thus the cheating.
Now why do people cheat? I feel for women that it's more of an emotional detachment. This could also be a stereotype. Some women are like men and need to be sexually satisfied. But then again that's a stereotype, because men also require emotional attachments in a healthy relationship. So, in my opinion, there is basically an emotional or physical need not being satisfied.
Whew! That was a lot from my perspective. Lol!
Luis
What is considered cheating? Whenever we betray a trust of our partner, whether it be physical, emotional, or spiritual bonding with a third party without the partners consent.
Why do people cheat? People have different scenarios in which society judges upon. At what point should we judge it? At what point should we not? I believe it's important to put yourself in peoples shoes before you frown upon their actions.
The rest I'll discuss on the show.
Thursday, April 18, 2013
DO YOU THINK THAT THE EVOLUTION OF MUSIC HAS GONE BACKWARDS?
Don't forget to tune into our live show on Thursday April 18, 2013 @ 9:30 pm on www.blogtalkradio.com.
Luis
The music culture in this country, I believe, has gone backwards. The United States has produced legendary artists like Jimmy Hendrix, Jim Morrison, Johnny Cash, Janis Joplin, Michael Jackson, among many many others, as well as launched international careers like Bob Marley, The Beatles, Pink Floyd, and many many other artists that came out in the 50s, 60s, 70s, and 90s. For example Nirvana in the 90s. It seems as soon as we hit the millennium music suffered a tremendous blow. Pop is terrible rock. Even worse hip hop is in the toilet. Young kids don't know what the difference is between a corporate puppet and a legend that fights for the right to send out a positive message.
This week we will explore lyrics, accomplishments and the mark that legends have left in comparison to these clowns that poison our children's minds.
Michele
Music exists to entertain. I do not agree that the evolution of music has gone backwards. During hard times such as the great depression, times of war and similar events music is an outlet and a way for people to forget the hard times. So there may not be great meaning in the hits but they are meant to have fun. Our country has been faced with hard times for the last 10+ years I think if you reflect on the music it shows. The difference between an artist and an entertainer, is someone who not only sings, they play instruments and write music. That's what makes them an artist. An entertainer may perform someone else's songs and makes their live show more of a spectacle. The difference between a legend and a corporate puppet is along the same lines of artist and entertainer. The legend makes a name for themselves based on their musical talents and the corporate puppet could crossover to legend territory but they would need to overcome the chains of management which may be hard to do. My idea of good music are songs that tell a story. I love lyrics and if I can connect with the song I'm more inclined to play it again and actually buy it.
Leilani
I personally think that music has gone completely backwards
especially in my favorite genre R&B. Let me preface this discussion by
saying I am not a music connoisseur, and I don’t claim to be, but I do know what I
like.
I am typically fond of 90’s R&B. I absolutely loved
Avant, Joe, Case, Lauryn Hill, and of course, some Maxwell! Can I get a woot
woot? You can still find me bumping some Ex-Factor
by Ms. Hill, or This Woman’s Work by
Maxwell. To this day I have yet to hear an artist that makes me have an
emotional experience with their music. I do like Miguel’s Let My Love Adorn You, but it could just be the style.
I am also very fond of some Lisa Lisa and the Cult Jam,
UB40, Bob Marley, Teena Marie, and Michael Jackson. My taste in music differs.
I can rock to some alternative, groove to some soul, pretend to roll on some
dubs with my West Coast gangster rap, and honkey tonk to some country. Music is
very therapeutic, and the right song makes all the difference.
There is definitely a difference between an artist and an
entertainer, and rarely are we graced with a musician that has both. One of my
personal favorites is Michael Jackson. How talented was that man!?!? Regardless
of his personal life, which I don’t care to discuss, that man made some incredible
music and was always entertaining. Another artist that is controversial, but I
think is incredibly talented, is Lady Gaga. Yes, she is over the top. But that
lady can sing, write, and entertain like no ones business. Sorry about it, she
may have copied her fashion style, but that woman is a genius!!!
So the question is about the evolution of music. I know I’m
about to get some haters, but let’s go there. No, I do not want to “superman
that hoe” or “lean like a cholo”, but you can catch me trying to “drop it low”
or even making failed attempts at “getting my eagle on”! Lol! Sometimes “ratchet”
music just sounds fun, and is incredibly entertaining. Yes, I said ratchet, you
darn kids with the slang. Lol!
Is it art in my opinion? No. Is it good music? Perhaps. Is
it something that I would put my name behind? Probably not. Music changes with
the generations. I’m assuming this new music that I’ve heard cares more about a
catchy hook than a meaningful song. I think that music today lacks depth, and
doesn’t tell a story. This is definitely just my opinion though. Cheers!
Thursday, April 11, 2013
Blogtalkradio- HOW IMPORTANT IS SEX IN A RELATIONSHIP
We had a blast tonight despite the technical difficulties. The topic was HOW IMPORTANT IS SEX IN A RELATIONSHIP??? Check out our show. We'd love to hear what you think. Cheers!!!!
Listen to my new episode Let's talk about SEX baby at http://tobtr.com/s/4654785. #BlogTalkRadio
Listen to my new episode Let's talk about SEX baby at http://tobtr.com/s/4654785. #BlogTalkRadio
Wednesday, April 10, 2013
Let's talk about S.E.X.
Yup we're going there... this weeks topic is HOW IMPORTANT IS SEX IN A RELATIONSHIP??? Is it essential to the well being of a relationship? Can it be confused with love? Can a relationship work if it's more important to one partner than the other? These are some things that we considered this week when writing down our thoughts. Let us know what you think!
Don't forget to check us out on Blogtalkradio.com live on Thursday, April 11, 2013 @ 9:30pm, where your Chatting Drunk hosts will share their different takes on this question. Hope you tune in, comment, or give us a call! Cheers!
Leilani
So after seeing different versions of this question posted all over Facebook, and talked about in random discussions, we decided to talk about the importance or lack of importance that sex has in a relationship. I am assuming that we are all adults and can have a grown up conversation in regards to sex, but we'll see how that turns out on our live show. Lol!
In my opinion there are a lot of other parts of a relationship that are waaaaaay more important than sex. For instance I would put more effort into respecting one another, trust in a relationship, enjoying spending quality time, laughter, rather than focusing on sex sex sex! This doesn't mean that sex isn't fun, don't get me wrong, sex can be great when you are in a relationship, OR just fun on a whim if that's what you like! However, I must not think like a man, because sex is not a constant thought in my mind. My bad for wanting to catch a few more minutes of sleep, or do a load of laundry. Lol!
Let me stop for a minute and clarify, yes I know, I sound like a prude. But I just think that sex is a part of a relationship to be enjoyed, but not so important that people need to ruin a relationship over lack of sex. Just think, especially the men, when you're 70, do you really think that your "Mighty Penis" is going to be working like when it did when you were 20? Exactly! So have fun with sex while you can, enjoy the moments, but in my opinion place more emphasis on the long lasting elements of a relationship.
Luis
How important is sex in a relationship? I believe that for men sex is essential to be able to sustain an adult relationship with his woman. Unless there was some sort of agreement beforehand for religious beliefs or other motives similar to this. Sex must be done 3 to 10 times a week to keep us satisfied. It is a part of our well being. Just like food, water, and exercise, sex is just as important. If we do not get it, we will go out and find it. This does not mean that a woman that is not looking for a sexual relationship should be forced or threatened in any way, shape, or form, just to keep a man. I speak for what i would need, and am honest to myself knowing that I would not survive without it.
Michele
I think sex, trust and communication are equally important in a relationship. They all go hand in hand in having a healthy relationship. Sex is intimate and I'm not the type of person that can have sex "like a man", although I did once which had the exact opposite effect on Mr. New York, who moved across the country and thought it would happen again. That experience was so awful it sent me back into the arms of my ex, Mr. Law enforcement. While I was dating Mr. Minnesota, he said "I don't hook up just to hook up! I have to have a connection with that person, if there is no chemistry the sex won't be good." I totally agree with that and maybe that's why my experience with Mr. New York was so bad, I only had feelings for him on a friend level and just got drunk enough to cross that line...once!
As a woman I rely on my intuition a lot and in order for me to rely on that I need to feel a connection with that person. So communication is key, Mr. Law enforcement and I were long distance our whole relationship and the first year and a half we were on different continents so communication is all we had. If we didn't have communication and the desire to make it work it wouldn't have lasted. Sex isn't everything in a relationship but it is important to keep the connection strong.
Although I think sex is just as important as trust and communication I think you need to communicate and build trust first before you bring sex into the relationship. It is said that sex changes everything and I agree with that. If a man wants to leave he will leave, sex isn't going to keep him around. If you make him wait 3, or 5 dates or even 3 months eventually he will leave. If he was only in it for the sex he probably wouldn't have stuck around the 3 months.
Don't forget to check us out on Blogtalkradio.com live on Thursday, April 11, 2013 @ 9:30pm, where your Chatting Drunk hosts will share their different takes on this question. Hope you tune in, comment, or give us a call! Cheers!
Leilani
So after seeing different versions of this question posted all over Facebook, and talked about in random discussions, we decided to talk about the importance or lack of importance that sex has in a relationship. I am assuming that we are all adults and can have a grown up conversation in regards to sex, but we'll see how that turns out on our live show. Lol!
In my opinion there are a lot of other parts of a relationship that are waaaaaay more important than sex. For instance I would put more effort into respecting one another, trust in a relationship, enjoying spending quality time, laughter, rather than focusing on sex sex sex! This doesn't mean that sex isn't fun, don't get me wrong, sex can be great when you are in a relationship, OR just fun on a whim if that's what you like! However, I must not think like a man, because sex is not a constant thought in my mind. My bad for wanting to catch a few more minutes of sleep, or do a load of laundry. Lol!
Let me stop for a minute and clarify, yes I know, I sound like a prude. But I just think that sex is a part of a relationship to be enjoyed, but not so important that people need to ruin a relationship over lack of sex. Just think, especially the men, when you're 70, do you really think that your "Mighty Penis" is going to be working like when it did when you were 20? Exactly! So have fun with sex while you can, enjoy the moments, but in my opinion place more emphasis on the long lasting elements of a relationship.
Luis
How important is sex in a relationship? I believe that for men sex is essential to be able to sustain an adult relationship with his woman. Unless there was some sort of agreement beforehand for religious beliefs or other motives similar to this. Sex must be done 3 to 10 times a week to keep us satisfied. It is a part of our well being. Just like food, water, and exercise, sex is just as important. If we do not get it, we will go out and find it. This does not mean that a woman that is not looking for a sexual relationship should be forced or threatened in any way, shape, or form, just to keep a man. I speak for what i would need, and am honest to myself knowing that I would not survive without it.
Michele
I think sex, trust and communication are equally important in a relationship. They all go hand in hand in having a healthy relationship. Sex is intimate and I'm not the type of person that can have sex "like a man", although I did once which had the exact opposite effect on Mr. New York, who moved across the country and thought it would happen again. That experience was so awful it sent me back into the arms of my ex, Mr. Law enforcement. While I was dating Mr. Minnesota, he said "I don't hook up just to hook up! I have to have a connection with that person, if there is no chemistry the sex won't be good." I totally agree with that and maybe that's why my experience with Mr. New York was so bad, I only had feelings for him on a friend level and just got drunk enough to cross that line...once!
As a woman I rely on my intuition a lot and in order for me to rely on that I need to feel a connection with that person. So communication is key, Mr. Law enforcement and I were long distance our whole relationship and the first year and a half we were on different continents so communication is all we had. If we didn't have communication and the desire to make it work it wouldn't have lasted. Sex isn't everything in a relationship but it is important to keep the connection strong.
Although I think sex is just as important as trust and communication I think you need to communicate and build trust first before you bring sex into the relationship. It is said that sex changes everything and I agree with that. If a man wants to leave he will leave, sex isn't going to keep him around. If you make him wait 3, or 5 dates or even 3 months eventually he will leave. If he was only in it for the sex he probably wouldn't have stuck around the 3 months.
Thursday, April 4, 2013
Check out our latest show... WHEN ARE YOU CONSIDERED AN ADULT?
We had a lot of fun tonight talking about this topic. We went off topic a little bit, but hey with alcohol anything can happen. :) Check it out and we would love to hear your feedback.
We had a blast tonight!!! :) Listen to my new episode When are you considered an adult? at http://tobtr.com/s/4619627. #BlogTalkRadio
We had a blast tonight!!! :) Listen to my new episode When are you considered an adult? at http://tobtr.com/s/4619627. #BlogTalkRadio
Wednesday, April 3, 2013
When are you considered an adult?
This past week the three of us sat down and reflected on one very important question... When are you considered an adult? Now really think about the question and reflect on your own personal experiences. What is an adult? Is it an age? A state of mind? Responsibility? There are so many ways to look at this topic. Let's see what our hosts think this week.
Don't forget to tune in on Thursday April 4th @ 9pm on www.blogtalkradio.com/chattingdrunk. This is our first live show and your chance to call in, live chat, or connect with us on twitter or facebook, and we will respond to your questions, and share your comments. Hope to see you there!!! CHEERS!!!
MICHELE
Adulthood, Adulthood oh how I despise you! A couple weeks before my last birthday I was really dreading it...I remember telling one of my friends, "I don't feel like an adult but I feel like I'm beyond young adulthood. I feel like my theme song is the ToysRus song" 'I don't want to grow up, I'm a ToysRus kid, there's a million things at ToysRus that I can play with, from bikes to trains to video games, the biggest toy store there is! I don't wanna grow up cuz if I did I wouldn't be a ToysRus kid!'
I personally feel like you become an adult when you are completely self-sufficient. I guess I believe there are different stages of adulthood the young adult part where you are self-sufficient but don't have the "adult" responsibilities so you have a disposable income. You probably aren't the most responsible adult but you're still an adult. Then there is that point where you cross over and take on some responsibilities such as having a significant other, children, pets, really anything that would hinder you from just showing up at the airport on Friday after work for a spur of the moment get away because you have someone else to think about.
This is what I'm struggling with, I don't feel like I'd consider myself a "young" adult but I'm not yet ready to cross that line into regular responsible adulthood...I'm a little closer now that I'm in the line of work that I've been trying to get back to for the last 6 months, but I don't think I'm completely ready yet. I do feel like I have wavered back and forth for the last few years, when I first decided on my profession and got my first paying job in that field I felt like a responsible adult! I had bought a condo and had a dog and was tackling my chosen profession. Then I had some bumps in the road and I quickly realized...I'm not quite ready to fully grow up just yet! I'm slowly but surely getting closer to crossing that line of embracing responsible adulthood but I think I'm going to enjoy being a young adult for a little while longer...The church says you are a young adult until 39! Woohoo!
LUIS
I think you're considered an adult when you live up to your responsibilities. Many people can have the title of an adult with out actually having accomplished anything in their life by themselves. Other people are very young when they must act in a way they never expected to, or even knew about, to ensure their survival or simply to adapt to the environment. I think it is more relevant to judge someone on their maturity as an adult by their actions and their capability to maintain structure in their life than by age. I became an adult at around 20. My grandfather had the responsibilities of an adult at 8. I know others that are over 40 and still have no idea what adulthood is and yes there are many many other story's out there that we can chat about. For that reason I answer to this weeks topic "Lets get drunk and chat about it!"
LEILANI
In my opinion I believe that you are considered an adult when your parents or guardians are no longer legally responsible for you. In the state of California you are an adult at the age of 18. That means that your parents are not legally responsible for you when you get into trouble, an accident, and especially financially. Basically at any moment you could be on your own. Paying your own bills, your own taxes, living alone, etc. I understand that there are some instances where parents choose to remain financially and legally responsible for their children over the age of 18. But this is a choice.
My opinion does not necessarily reflect a person who has been responsible at a young age, perhaps someone who has been taking care of themselves before a legal age. To me that means they are mature, not necesarilly an adult. Can they rent a car? When they get into trouble with the law, do they go to jail or juvy? Do they have credit? These are the instances that I am looking at.
Personally I consider myself an adult. Not the most mature adult, or even a responsible one, but I am an adult. I know of the responsibilities that come with being an adult, and I know the reprucussions of my actions if I break the law or any other situation which could lead me to get into trouble or a bind. Being an adult is an age mixed with a state of mind. To mature is something that just comes with time, but to be an adult is an age in which you are responsible for yourself and your actions and that is no one else's problem if they choose not to care.
So cheers to figuring out what it means to be an adult!!! LOL! :)
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