Listener's Choice- CHEATING

We have dedicated our very first ever Listener's Choice topic to The Anonymous One, whose feedback prompted us to talk about CHEATING. This week we looked at this crucial question when thinking about cheating. WHAT EXACTLY IS CONSIDERED CHEATING AND WHAT PROMPTS SOMEONE TO CHEAT? The Chatting Drunk Hosts are looking forward to discussing their different takes on this subject. We definitely do not agree on this one so tune in! Cheers!

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Michele
First I want to start this weeks post by saying I am nowhere near comfortable discussing this topic. I have cheated, been cheated on, been the other woman and have witnessed others close to me go through the same. I believe in karma and believe i have already paid for my sins, I have learned from these experiences and would never do them again.

I think people turn to cheating because they are cowards. If they were not, they would stay true to themselves and end the current relationship before starting something new. I think honesty is key in any relationship and if you are not happy and have thought of straying, tell your partner if you want to work at it, do so, and if not part ways. Cheating is not going to help the situation it only makes things worse. It hurts others not only the person that has been cheated on.

I think there are different levels of cheating and no one is better, or easily forgiven than the other. Cheating is still cheating and is hard to move on from or forgive. First there is emotionally cheating, where one partner turns to another for emotional support. I believe most women who cheat start here! Then there is physically cheating, where a partner engages in physical acts with someone other than their significant other. Now some people would classify a kiss as cheating, others do not, it depends on how someone views that I guess.

Leilani

I am excited about our first Listener's Choice Show! This topic is, in my opinion, controversial. That's why we limited it down to these two questions. So I will answer them respectively. Let me preface this topic by saying that I haven't ever cheated, and I haven't ever been the one cheated on. At least that I know of.  LOL!

So what do you consider cheating? In my opinion there are two forms of cheating. The emotional aspect and the physical aspect. Physical cheating in my opinion is when someone engages in sex, perhaps even kissing, but I don't know if I think that hugging another person would be considered cheating. I think that there are too many people that are so over possessive of their partners that they think that when their partner gives someone a high five, a hug, or a kiss on the cheek, that person has every intention of cheating. After speaking with a great friend of mine, she pointed out that those instances show that people have "EVERY INTENTION OF CHEATING!" (Had to capitalize for emphasis on the way she told me. Hahahaha) Intentions of cheating, do not mean that the person will actually cheat. I think of it this way, the intentions of buying some awesome new shoes, doesn't mean that you're going to go out of your way and buy those awesome shoes. There are a lot of things to consider, price, location, the fit. All of these things could run through your mind, but that actual purchase has not been made yet. Intentions mean nothing until they turn into actions.

On that note let me say that emotional cheating is probably a little more intense. Unless you are a mind reader, there is probably no or little signs to prove that your partner is cheating. However, once that emotional attachment is gone, then what is the point of staying in a relationship? Someone that cheats emotionally has now invested time, thought, and love, into another person that is not their significant other. Feelings can't be controlled, and if someone isn't "feeling" the other person, then they become emotionally detached. Thus the cheating. 

Now why do people cheat? I feel for women that it's more of an emotional detachment. This could also be a stereotype. Some women are like men and need to be sexually satisfied. But then again that's a stereotype, because men also require emotional attachments in a healthy relationship. So, in my opinion, there is basically an emotional or physical need not being satisfied. 

Whew! That was a lot from my perspective. Lol! 

Luis

What is considered cheating? Whenever we betray a trust of our partner, whether it be physical, emotional, or spiritual bonding with a third party without the partners consent.

Why do people cheat? People have different scenarios in which society judges upon. At what point should we judge it? At what point should we not? I believe it's important to put yourself in peoples shoes before you frown upon their actions.

The rest I'll discuss on the show.