Michele:
Hey guys I decided to discuss dating because I am single and even though a lot of you guys are married who hasn't been single at some point?! Everyone goes through it, some may have dated differently than others. Some people just "hang out", some go out on proper dates and some may marry their first love from childhood or high school and maybe never really went on a "real" date!
So I think the most common mistake people make while they are dating is having unrealistic expectations. Maybe even going in with expectations at all isn't the best for a first date. I have recently been dating and I have absolutely no expectations for these men! Do I have expectations for myself? Of course! Do I have deal breakers when it comes to relationships? YES! Do I have expectations for first dates...Not really! Do I have standards yes, but after they pass the initial standards (and let me tell you they are pretty high! haha) I do not have any real expectations for these guys. I have gone on these dates knowing they could be completely horrible and I will have an awesome bad date story for you guys. But to be honest the actual dates haven't been too bad! Did I click with these guys and find my soul mate? Probably not! Did I meet great guys? Yes! Did I also meet not so great guys? Yes! Does it make me want to go back to me ex because I know what I'll get with him? No! Right now I'm attracted to the unknown in hopes that there is someone out there that has the qualities I am looking for in a life partner!
I think it depends on what you are looking for when it comes to where you want to meet someone. If you are looking for a relationship I wouldn't think the best place to meet someone is a bar...but hey I do know a couple who met at a club had been in a long distance relationship for YEARS and finally got married a couple of years ago! So who am I to say where people should or shouldn't meet. The thing that I do know is I think people should be resourceful when it comes to meeting someone new! There are many online dating sites out there match.com has made attempts to bring people face to face with their singles mixers. I've been to one happy hour they put on and it was fun I got sick and left early but I'd totally recommend it for singles! I recently read an article in cosmo where an editor tried many different dating sites which prompted this topic. I decided to sign myself up and try them out. I'll talk about my experiences on the show I don't want to bore you with explanations here! But I do recommend Crazy Blind Date by OKCupid! It's a fun way to get out there and date! I would also recommend picking up a hobby or if you are religious get involved in your church or a bible study.
I think the best kind of dates are the ones where you are doing something together! It might be a little hard to concentrate on them in the beginning but I think after the initial thing is that you guys are doing is finished you are more relaxed and will know if you really want to get to know them or not. Last weekend I went bowling for a first date and we played two games I won the first game and in the middle of the second game my date put up the bumpers so he would no longer get a gutter ball...I obviously knew well he seems to be a problem solver but the more I learned about him the more I realized this is not a successful match!
I think the important thing to keep in mind while dating is to have fun, you will have some good and bad dates but you will learn a lot about yourself and what you are looking for in a significant other.
Leilani:
I'm not a big dater if dating is even something I do. Lol! I prefer meeting people casually. I probably wouldn't know how to go on a date if I tried. What I do recall when hanging out with someone for the first time it is always uncomfortable. You try to find things to talk about, you may or may not have butterfly's in your stomach, you have awkward conversations and moments of silence. The whole situation is just awkward. Lol!
Moving onto the questions... I think that the most common mistakes that people make when they first start dating is that they have expectations. They expect people to behave a certain way. Instead of just relaxing, being yourself, and going with the flow, people tend to have unrealistic expectations, making for awkward behavior. If you don't expect anything to happen, then you will be fine!!! Another mistake that people make is that they try to hard, or they talk about their exes. Just relax, enjoy the moment, and focus on what's in front of you... I think that will eliminate mistakes.
The best places to meet people? Well, I wouldn't know. I think that you should maybe try to meet people in places that you enjoy being at. Lol! Perhaps church or a bar. I really have no idea. Just make sure that you meet someone in a place that you enjoy because then perhaps that person has the same interests as you being in that location. Hahahaha!!!
The best kind of date to be on... in my opinion, would have to be a casual date. Where we are doing an activity, or relaxing in a quiet location where we can talk. I don't know exactly what the best kind of date would be, but when I find out, I'll let you guys know. Lol! The worse date to be on, or go on, would have to be a very formal dinner. Ugh! There is nothing more uncomfortable than meeting someone for the first time, and dressing up, and sitting in a fancy schmancy place with nothing to talk about. Save that for a few dates in, or date night when you're married.
Luis:
Dating...it's been a long time since I went through this scene. I think that dating can be a lot of fun on the right night or a living nightmare. You need to make sure you bring a gift, your best clothes, and according to Leilani some lube and a compass. Be respectful! Don't expect to revive something you haven't earned. And be a gentleman, it will get you farther than you think.
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